Its purpose is to:

1. create human connections that empower compassionate giving and receiving

2. create governmental and corporate structures that support compassionate giving and receiving

NVC involves communication skills that foster compassionate relating, consciousness of the interdependence of our well being, and using power with others to work together to meet the needs of all concerned.

This approach to communication emphasizes compassion as the motivation for action, rather than fear, guilt, shame, blame, coercion, threat, or justification for punishment. In other words, it is about getting what you want for reasons you will not regret later. NVC is NOT about getting people to do what we want. It is about creating a quality of connection that gets everyone’s needs met through compassionate giving.

The process of NVC encourages us to focus on what we and others are observing, separate from our interpretations and judgments, to connect our thoughts and feelings to underlying human needs/values (e.g. protection, support, love), and to be clear about what we would like towards meeting those needs. These skills give the ability to translate from a language of criticism, blame, and demand, into a language of human needs — a language of life that consciously connects us to the universal qualities “alive in us” that sustain and enrich our well being, and focuses our attention on what actions we could take to manifest these qualities.

Nonviolent Communication skills will assist you in dealing with major blocks to communication, such as demands, diagnoses, and blaming. In CNVC trainings, you will learn to express yourself honestly without attacking. This will help minimize the likelihood of facing defensive reactions in others. The skills will help you make clear requests. They will help you receive critical and hostile messages without taking them personally, giving in, or losing self-esteem. These skills are useful with family, friends, students, subordinates, supervisors, co-workers, and clients, as well as with your own internal dialogue.

For more information refer to Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life: Life-Changing Tools for Healthy Relationships by Marshal Rosenberg.